It takes a while to adjust to this new situation and to be honest I feel slightly panic as I realize that I have great responsibility for caring two daughters. It seems like a never-ending round of changing nappies and nursing with no time to rest! I guess I have to give space and time for my own self. I know that these first few weeks are important to breastfeed my baby, even though some people advise me to formula feed my baby, well it’s a big no-no, but thanks anyway for the thought of helping. Perhaps they saw me exhausted, yes I am, but I enjoy breastfeeding so very much!
I also have to take care of Iris’s feeling. I have to head off any feelings of jealousy between her and Iesha. I guess it is hard for her to adjust to this new situation. The first week was so hard for both of us. She tried to get away from me; she spent most of her time with Bapak, Anya, Wawan, Tok Ba and Nek Ma. She only came for breastfeeding. Yet, at the very moment, I get to know my newborn Iesha. It was hard I tell you, and then I know how important the role of “The Spouse”. He did most of the things in his paternity leave, from changing diapers, cooking meals for me, bathing Iris and Iesha, go shopping, and giving some extra support and company. I wished him Happy Mother’s Day on May 9th, because he is. Yet the most important thing “The Spouse” can do for you are listening to your heart, not only listening but contemplating each word we said.
I am grateful as well since Tok Ba and Nek Ma and Anya help me a lot. It is good when people I trust give some extra attention to Iris in these few weeks, so that I have time to discover my new divine baby Iesha. Oh my, there’s so much to do! There are so many things in my “To-Do” list; blogging about Iesha early weeks, making Tutu dress for Iris, e-shopping for Iesha’s aqiqah dress, compiling Iris’s photos, bla bla bla…
Miriam Stoppard tips help me in some way.
1. Sleep when your baby sleeps.
2. Don’t believe people who say their baby sleeps through the night already.
3. Accept whatever help you are offered.
4. Focus on your baby.
And “The Spouse” magical words – “You are a supermom, She”. I think that’s enough for me.
9 comments:
i had my undisturbed 'me time' 2 weeks before going bck to work.it's when i trained my maid to give EBM to imran.tupun office hour.enuff for me.otherwise,penat mcmanapun still wanted to be around and involved with the kids :).but yes,the help from the spouse and the grands are very welcomed and appreciated
Daughterette-I wonder why at d end of d day I tk pengsan or demam etc sbb too exhausted.maha agung Allah beri strength to mothers kan?
unconditioned love gives u super strength :)
perasan tak, walau penat mana sekali pun duk jaga anak but our hearts always blooming whenever we feed them, talk to them and looking into those shiny innocent eyes! haihhh....
Mummyhanny-u r so right!never thought I'd hv this kind of feeling to any Human beings!
She, yg penting jaga kesihatan diri tu. But mu very lucky sbb ada ramai yg blh tolong jaga iris. Yeah, u need time utk adapt dgn suasana n keadaan baru tu. Aku yakin mu a strong mother, cayalah!
kaklong-tq very much!yes utk 2 bln ni ramai yg membantu.hopefully dipermudahkan semua.amin.
hi there, you must be excited waiting for the parcel tomorrow.
got some gelenya extra goody.
xxxx
mushymaro
oh mushy yom yom,thx a lot sweetie,im sure love them to bits! (oh how angel my words here,ignore the sms)
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